BEHAVIORS AND RESPONSES
CHARACTER - What are YOU really made of?
Often, in the sports and business world, the word “Character” is defined by a very famous quote -
“Character is who you are when no one is watching.”
That is a strong definition.
However, a couple years ago, we took a deep dive into what REALLY shows the character of a person.
We wanted to look at what REALLY made others different – whether that was a good different or a bad different.
What I found time and time again is that a major part of a person’s character is always displayed by 2 things –
Their behaviors and their responses.
Behaviors - how they behave on a day-to-day basis. How they work. How they show up. How they communicate. The sum of all their actions day by day can be classified as their "behaviors.”
One of the most powerful questions I have ever heard regarding character was from Damian Lillard – who is often labeled as one of the BEST leaders in ALL of pro sports.
He would simply look at a teammate, coach, opponent and ask – ‘Where did you learn that behavior and why do you think it's ok?”
Consistent behaviors display what you are REALLY made of.
Responses - how someone responds to things displays the condition of their heart. It displays the foundation of their character. Every day, every single one of us is put in a position to respond. Respond to failure & criticism – respond to success & praise. Respond to an adverse situation or condition.
The best of the best I have been around simply have the BEST responses. Most of their responses, if not all, are built from what they are made of. Committed. Disciplined. Caring. Intentional. Optimistic. Believing.
Time and time again, when I see someone who struggles – I catch myself walking away saying “they have bad responses.”
What they are really made of, their character, is coming out and being displayed by their responses.
So, what is someone really made of?
How do we define Character?
“Your character is displayed by your behaviors and responses.”
To get the results very few get – we must do what very few do.
We must develop GREAT CLARITY, STRONG INTENTIONALITY, and HIGH LEVEL ACCOUNTABILITY when it comes to our own BEHAVIORS and RESPONSES. This will in turn allow us to lead others in improving their own.
- Phil Beckner