How To Create Lasting Change
"The best Coaches & leaders know lasting change will only occur if the player takes ownership and recognizes they must change..."
Too many times in my coaching career, I struggled with this topic. I was the "hard-nosed," "tough assed" coach who demanded excellence…even PERFECTION, and I was never satisfied with the results.
Rod challenged me:
"Phil, If you haven't learned that if you keep motivating through fear, shame, or intimidation, you will have a VERY SHORT shelf-life in today's world. The change you want to see in your players simply won't last because they will only be trying to survive. Don't become the "Oh, No" coach."
What's an "Oh No" coach??? The coach players run from…the coach players cant stand!
"Oh No," here he comes!
"Oh No," what is he going to say this time?
"Oh No," what did I do wrong?
"Oh No," I have to be in his drill today!
I had to own this and get better at creating lasting change.
Here are a few steps Rod gave me and held me accountable to:
1. Raise the Player's Self-Awareness
Many people don't even know they need to change or improve. Remember, self-awareness is the beginning of change. Ask them to rank themselves on a scale of 1-5 in regard to the skill or mindset you want them to work on. See where they are and start the recalibration process from there.
2. Show the Player a Relevant Reason "WHY" they need to change
People won't change a thing if they don't think they need to. Therefore master coaches are experts at helping the player see why a specific skill or thinking won't benefit them in the long run.
3. Implement a Transformation Plan
As a teacher, I've been taught that you better have a plan before the students start showing up. Coach with the end in mind. Then, give the player knowledge, strategies, and provide extreme clarity to take the following steps.
4. Journey Together "Iron Sharpens Iron."
Perhaps just as important as starting this process is never finishing it. The coach/player relationship now moves to the colleague stage, where we journey through life together. Here, conversations continue to occur, but they are based on what the player experiences as they teach others.